I wasn’t blogging or even reading blogs when a lot of the #RABlogReunion participants were blogging, but I have really enjoyed reading some of the older posts when I come across them. And I am certainly looking forward to taking a blogging tour!
It seems funny to call myself a “new” RA blogger, when I’ve been at it for 3 1/2 years now! But it’s all relative, isn’t it? I’d be really interested to find out why others stopped blogging about RA and how you knew it was time. I’ve debated about that a lot lately.
Originally, I just watched a bit of North and South (a.k.a. the gateway drug) on my own, then as I began researching RA, I discovered that there were RA bloggers and realized that there was a whole world of interesting, intelligent women that I had never imagined before! Lurking turned into commenting, until finally the words forming continually in my head urged me to start my own blog at the beginning of 2017. I hesitated a lot, because my work and family life don’t allow for much creative leisure time, but my older son convinced me I should do it and I took the leap.
Over my 3 1/2 years of blogging, my life hasn’t really changed a whole lot. I’m still in the same house, although I discovered North and South before I moved here. In fact, I have been a fan for a lot longer than I’ve been blogging — I went to see The Hobbit because I knew Richard Armitage was going to be in it.
I have the same (but evolving) job, with a new boss for the last year and a half — she is a real driver, meaning that I have even less time and mental energy to blog than I used to. It’s hard to be creative when you are exhausted.
A year ago, my younger son graduated from high school and then started college in August. Putting high school behind us seemed like a release from prison for both of us. My older son moved out of the house in December, establishing his life closer to where he works. This was a big change, but it was a lot easier for his mother to let go now than it was when he moved out for a short time when he was 19. Still, it means that we haven’t been able to see each other much during this whole COVID thing. I shouldn’t complain, though, because at least he and my husband and I are all working, even if the circumstances are a bit different.
And then I turned 60 on Friday, which is somehow weighing heavily on me.
When I first became enamoured of our man Richard, he looked like this (at least in the shows I was then watching):
Clean-cut, angular, handsome. Was he right that we fell for his characters, not actually for him? Maybe. To me he seemed so refined and bookish and cello-playing. Then I heard one of his characters swear and for some reason I was shocked!
I really liked him as the ultimate bad boy — although I would hope he isn’t really that way in life!
When I started lurking around the fandom, he somehow had changed into someone I didn’t quite recognize:
Not being a fan of the close-cropped hair, I wasn’t sure what to make of him.
But my interest has held, over all his many looks…. well maybe not this one:
I mean, really.
So, what now? Blogging for me has waned, for a number of reasons.
- How do you blog when you are too exhausted to think creatively? I can do it when I’m away, as my two-day mini-break just before the COVID crisis hit proved to me. But otherwise, vegging in front of the TV seems the easiest option and inertia takes over.
- Over the last year or two, some things happened in the blogging fandom that really put me off. The changes in atmosphere affected me emotionally and made blogging stop being fun. Things have settled down now, but maybe the thrill is gone? I hope I can get it back.
- Then there’s Richard himself. Some of the things he tweets, for example, make me scratch my head. Like, I should be glad when he retweets that “SOLT and Equity… have come to an agreement to support actors during the current suspension of West End shows due to the COVID-19 crisis.”? Without any context as to what he’s thinking, my first thought is a sarcastic, “Phew! Richard is being paid!” But then he goes and does a nice little video tour of his home audiobook studio and sparks my interest again!
Well, that’s probably enough said for now. It’s midnight going into the #RABlogReunion Day and I guess I should go to bed. I’d love to hear why you still blog about Richard and/or why you stopped.
(Most photos above from RichardArmitageNet.com and richardarmitagecentral.co.uk.)